Let’s Rate Our 2014s!

There’s only one more day of 2014 left, so let’s talk about our years! On a global/political/etc level, 2014 was super crappy (and sure, what year isn’t, but this one seemed especially depressing), but on a purely personal level, my 2014 was…fine? There was plenty of good stuff (trips to visit friends, hanging out here with you nerds), no really bad stuff (always a blessing, no sarcasmo), and lots and lots of…fine. I’m a very lucky person who enjoys the quiet life, but I should probably try to step up my game a little in 2015. More doing stuff and making things happen, less wasting time online (but still plenty of wasting time online. Balance is important!). In a few weeks, I’m moving to a city where lots of my friends live, so that will be pretty great. All in all, I’ll give my 2014 a solid 6: unremarkable, but decent, like a ham sandwich that’s nothing fancy but still fills you up.

What about you? How does your 2014 rate?

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43 Responses to Let’s Rate Our 2014s!

  1. flanny says:

    I’m going to give 2014 a 4. I was pretty miserable the first half, which skews the average. The score for just the second half of the year would be much higher. New job. New car. New sister-in-law. Running a 5K. Laughing very hard with good friends. One Direction breathing the same air as me. But all that tumult and change fucked my creative drive, so that’s why my score’s so low.

    A 4: a shitty dinner that you eat just to get to the dessert, but then when you get the dessert, you find out that what you thought was just a chocolate cake has raspberry filling in it, so you’re not satisfied because you hate fruit and chocolate together. You vow to be more thoughtful about your dessert choices next time.

    • I need to get a new car, and I’m mad about it because I hate spending that much money, even when it’s something I need (especially when it’s something I need, instead of something fun).

      • old man fatima says:

        Cars let you do fun things, though, like go hiking and camping and visiting places and seeing people and cruising the main strip blasting 80s hair rock! So cars are fun by extension!

        • I try to see them that way, I really do, but I just end up annoyed that they don’t get me where I want to go with zero effort on my part.

        • artdorkgirl says:

          I miss having a car!! Zipping around town, running my own errands without worrying about public transportation!

        • flanny says:

          I love to drive! It was something I was missing so hard in Boston. And she’s my first car in eight or nine years, and my first car that wasn’t a handmedown and was in fact brand new! I love her. And I love that I live in the middle of nowhere, so for me “traffic” means waiting behind one car for a couple of seconds to turn left into my neighborhood.

          (I’m commenting a lot right now because I’m trying to avoid going out into the 20 degree weather to go for a run.)

  2. old man fatima says:

    I left a backwards, conservative, redneck area with no jobs where I had made exactly 2 friends in the entire year I was there and moved to an exciting, multi-cultural city with weekly municipal compost pick-up, plenty of free outdoor events, and an opera society. I made a good group of friends here very quickly and got a promotion and raise at work. I bought a cozy, beautiful home a 20 min walk from downtown and got the world’s best roommate. Chompsky has been thriving here, and is almost on the verge of being described as “sociable” under the right conditions! I had to put down the greatest cat in the history of cats, but I got him a ridiculous antique urn and a gigantic portrait, both of which he would have approved of. I started to write an erotic novel. I started lifting weights. I wrote for this blog!! I pushed my brother to ask out his widowed friend and now they’re a sickeningly happy couple and my mom gets to satisfy her grandmotherly urges with the gf’s twin 5 year olds. My grandpa learned to text. I got cute new boots and some nice dresses, one of which I am wearing right now per my resolution to not wear sweatpants to work every day. Look at how cute my dress is! It has swans on it! I am not drunk!

    I give this year an 8 just because politically it was a shit show and I am feuding with the window company and the neighbours on one side. It’s been a pretty gd good year, though!

  3. catweazle says:

    Well, two good things happened to me this year: I got a new better job and my precious nephew was born. But other than that it’s probably been, no exaggeration, the worst year of my life. Not to get into too much depressing detail (oh who am I kidding, I’m about to overshare and you can deal) here are some things that happened in 2014: I had a nervous breakdown, my dad died, my very good friend’s mom died, my uncle is extremely sick and possibly not going to make it, my precious three-month-old nephew has been hospitalized multiple times and had to have surgery and is currently sick once again because the surgery wound didn’t heal properly, and basically I spent the majority of the year hiding in my apartment and feeling miserable.

    I award the year a 2 (one point for each of the aforementioned good things): it was like the meal my mom used to make at least once a week by throwing some chicken and weird watery yet chunky tomato sauce in a crock pot all day and I had to eat it even though the smell alone made me want to barf, but technically it kept me from starving to death so it wasn’t all bad.

  4. artdorkgirl says:

    I guess I’m giving this year a 5. I finished my coursework and started teaching, presented at a conference, and got my name in an MFA publication. The cats are happy in the new apartment and we’ve been able to have more people over for parties and movie nights because there’s more space.

    On the other hand, the conference was a bust, I don’t really feel like I’m getting anywhere with my internship at the museum, and I didn’t get the teaching job for next fall so I’m not sure how I’m going to fund stuff after August. Orals are coming up soon, and although I’ve gotten good feedback, I’m still super nervous about them.

    So yeah, it’s a 5: That feeling you have when you really want a snack, but nothing in the house looks good so you go ahead and have some chips, but that doesn’t really satisfy you so you try a cookie, but that’s not hitting the spot either so you just skip the whole snack idea.

  5. This is a tough question for me because there have been some really really great things going on but also the day-to-day of some of this year was pretty terrible. I’ll give this whole year a 7: the first half of the year was pretty great and I got to do some wonderful stuff (including a couple really awesome trips with my super awesome husband). The second half of the year has been really really tough with the layoffs at work making my work life pretty anxious. Actually getting pregnant is of course really really great, but the act of being pregnant, so far, in my mind, gets a 0.8 on a 10-point scale. So I’m very happy with how everything is working out, but the last 6 months have just been tough across the board.
    On the other hand, I realized that I went to zero weddings this year but that my friends (collectively) have had 6 babies (4 in the last 2 months) so I guess I’m in that phase exclusively now.

    • flanny says:

      I’m in the phase where everyone who got married at a “normal” age is now either getting divorced or has had a baby or two or three. And now I’m seeing my friends who Say Yes To The Dress would describe as “mature” first-time brides getting engaged.

      • Yep, I’m starting to see a couple of divorces of people my age (not counting the ones of people who got married at 18-20 and divorced by 23-25). Also my single girlfriends are starting to complain that the majority of hits they get on online dating are 45 yr old divorced guys looking for “a young trophy wife”.
        Life is so so weird.

        • flanny says:

          So weird! I just saw one of my friends who I hadn’t seen in ages just before Christmas and she told me she was separated from her husband. And then she was like, “I guess I have to figure out how to get back out there.” And then she sort of looked at me like maybe I had advice for her? And I just went ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

  6. old man fatima says:

    I just found this gif, so I’m going to go ahead and bump this year up to an 8.5

  7. Wallflower says:

    Well, the worst thing that happened in 2014 was we had to put our beloved dachshund down and I still can’t see a picture of her without completely breaking down. On a more positive note, I graduated and got a job. I have problems making friends because most of the people where I live grew up here and have friends from school and aren’t really willing to let new people into their social circles. However, I have met the wife of one of my husband’s coworkers who is pretty awesome and we are all spending NYE together so….fingers crossed! So with the highs and the lows….I guess I’d give it a 5.

    5=When you think you killed your boss by giving him rat poison so you steal what you think is his dead body from the hospital but it turns out he just knocked himself out because of a broken office chair. (I may be watching 9 to 5 because Lily Tomlin is the best.)

    • Making friends as an adult is just the worst, hardest thing. People are either already grouped up, or you eventually realize, once your haze of lonely eagerness has evaporated, that even though this person is perfectly pleasant and you certainly don’t mind spending time with them, they’re not really friend friend material, and now you don’t know what to do without making things awkward. Woooorst.

    • flanny says:

      Have you seen Big Business? (If you have and didn’t like it, please just lie to me because it is my favorite movie and I cannot handle anyone criticizing it.)

  8. Kate says:

    I’d give it about an 8. My husband and I had our 30th anniversary and celebrated with a trip with our kids, so that was fun! It would have been a 10 if not for some pesky health issues.

  9. I would like to add a thing that bumped me up one digit: over Christmas we hung out with my family and this includes my niece who is 2 and 3 months. She’s super cute! I always try to get her a clothing thing in addition to a toy and book, so when I was home at Thanksgiving I asked my brother what she is into these days and he mentioned Despicable Me among a couple other things. So I ended up getting her a tshirt that has a minion on the front (it’s yellow, nothing too special) and when she opened the gift, she immediately starting happy noises and happy feet bouncing, but cutest of all, she immediately pulled off the shirt she was wearing to put the new shirt on. It was the cutest thing that has ever happened to anybody anywhere. Then the next day she was wearing the shirt again, of course.

  10. Erika says:

    I guess I’d give the year a 7.

    The boyfriend and I bought a house at the end of last year, and having our own place and not having to deal with landlords have been great. I also re-saved about half of what I put down for the down payment already, so I’m feeling pretty good about that. Yay for saving money by cohabitating and being a cheapskate!

    But I still really can’t stand my job. I’m teetering on the edge of just up and quitting, which would be good for my short-term mental health but bad for my long-term fiscal health.

  11. martinmegz says:

    I had a bad end to 2013, but things righted themselves at the start of 2014. I got a promotion on Valentine’s Day that I had been trying to get for two years, then two days later I got really sick and I was ill for the next three months (like, couldn’t sit up for more than a few hours a day and my brain was foggy and for awhile I thought maybe I was dying).

    Once I finally got better, things started to pick up. I’ve been getting to the gym 2-3 times per week since August. I won a couple of small contests. I went to Memphis to see Pearl Jam and Graceland and met some cool people. In November I got an all-expense-paid trip to the Caribbean to write an article about a resort — they paid for the flight, activities, even food and booze! I stayed in the fanciest suite they had and it was the trip of a lifetime (even though I was by myself, which is kind of weird but what can you do). I was able to get home to see my family for a whole week at Christmas.

    So I’m calling this year an 8 because I lost 25% of it to illness, but some other really great stuff happened so overall I have a positive impression of 2014. It was like a fantastic sandwich that has mayo even though you asked for no mayo, but you can still enjoy it.

    • old man fatima says:

      I always travel alone, I very much prefer it! I get so little vacation, I don’t want to compromise on any of it. I don’t want to go see something I am not interested in and I don’t want to miss seeing something I am interested in because someone else doesn’t want to, and I don’t want to have to wait for someone else to get ready and I don’t want someone else to have to wait for me to get ready. It’s not for everyone, but I love it. I don’t get lonely because I have this mental deficiency where I talk to strangers all the damn time. And this other disease called being really frugal, so I stay in hostels and you can usually find people to hang out with in the common areas if you’re looking to go out at night. Although now at my age I am hostel grandma, basically.

  12. My year was not so great. I spent most of the year working at a really boring job that I did not like and being rejected from other jobs that I really wanted, which was really tough. I quit to take an internship that I enjoyed but is now over and I am super unemployed and desperately broke and trying to figure out what I’m going to do about my life and career. All of my friends have been busy and working on new projects, so I’ve been really lonely all year and feel like I’ve just been spending all my time isolate and alone with my cat. I also fell off a horse and spent several weeks in a lot of pain, which was incredibly unpleasant.

    I give this year a 4 since nothing incredibly horrible happened, it’s just been lonely and depressing. It was like when all you have is old chicken and limp vegetables for dinner and you know that it’s not going to taste good, but it’s either that or go hungry.

  13. mikaelajm says:

    Hmm, I guess I’d give this year a 6? I finished coursework AND passed my comps. However, all of that involved a metric fuckton of stress and constantly feeling behind. I visited my brother in Cairo, which was amazing, but I wish I’d stayed longer and maybe fit in some traveling outside the city. I went to some super fun weddings which cost an arm and a leg. I’ve run 180 miles since July 1st, but still don’t feel nearly as fit, or as close to running a 10k, as I want to be. I generally felt fulfilled personally, but incredibly ambivalent/confused about my career path. Overall the balance sheet is positive, like a movie that you’d watch again but not pay for twice!

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