It got up to 64 degrees here! I went outside and everything! It’s going to be back down in the thirties by Friday, but we won’t talk about that.
I’m in Baltimore and it’s effin’ 80 degrees today. Also, I once again had too much sushi for lunch. One of which was a Philly roll with a total of like a half block of Philly cream cheese. So good.
And, so, I’m on a dating app (I know) and a guy who seems nice and cool and woke actually wants to match with me! Most of them are stunningly average, so this is a nice change. So stay tuned.
Oh please shower us with dating app stories. Seriously I will read them forever.
Today has been okay despite being up from 4-5:30 with my baby this morning. I did the oh-so-embarrassing thing of asking our VP for a “spot bonus” (a thing my company does) for me and two of my colleagues. Normally I would never ask for a bonus for myself, but I do think these two other people deserve one and if they do, then I do too, and this VP has specifically said the only real way to get one is to ask for it for yourself (which, believe me I know, is garbage, but that’s the way it goes I guess). So that’s awkward, but he responded quickly that I should summarize why we deserve one so I guess he’s not totally aghast that I would be so bold.
Also my work best friend and I came up with a plan to make our job better and possibly create our own new positions that would be very very cool. So that’ll be fun.
There is no shame in asking for a bonus for yourself! That is not something you should feel bad about. Awhile ago I heard this story on NPR saying that the pay gap between men and women isn’t attributable solely to sexism, part of it is that women don’t ask for as much as men! Men are able to shoot high and don’t feel bad about being turned down, while women talk ourselves out of making big requests and feel guilty when we’re told no. Since then, I make a point to push for more and if an employer can’t give me money, I ask for other things: more vacation days, a better office, perks, a three-month review with pay raise instead of waiting a year, etc. You deserve that bonus!
We don’t technically know if you deserve it. But we’re on your side.
Some of us have been paying attention to her stories about work and do in fact know she deserves it.
Thank you! I definitely ask for a promotion (a lesson I learned the hard way that if you don’t ask for one, no one is going to give you one), this is just an added thing that our company does if someone goes beyond what’s expected.
Also, to be clear, I definitely deserve it. We had a deadline and I worked through strep throat and was ready to send a week early, but had to wait because someone else changed a meeting so only sent 3 1/2 days early, but STILL.
Latest update from the world of job-hunting:
To being offered work experience (I am not sure what you would call it, perhaps interns? Anyway it’s unpaid and it’s what you do when you are just starting out, rather than with 12 years’ experience under your belt), let us add getting an email back from someone you’d contacted about a possible role, suggesting you completely re-write your CV. All info the opposite to what you were told last week it was a good idea to put on there.
I feel for you, that super sucks!
Resumes and CVs and cover letters are the worst – you never know if you’re supposed to be formal or supposed to be casual. I wrote a really formal cover letter and my husband was like “you have to rewrite this so it sounds like it’s coming from an actual person. Make it sound like they will read it and be like ‘i can’t wait to meet her'” which is great advice but totally different from formal “no contractions” stuff. So frustrating.
Now I’ve calmed down a bit, one or two of her suggestions do make sense, but one or two of the others I just think are a matter of taste. Like you say, the way you read something will be totally different to how someone else reads it!
Anyway I am going to try it, but keeping a copy of the old one of course, and we will see if it makes any difference. I suspect it won’t, because at the end of the day, media works almost entirely on connections. Of the say 15 jobs I’ve had, I’d say only two of them came from an application, rather than word of mouth. Just want a little break now though!
When it comes to resumes and cover letters, I trust Ask a Manager – you could write to her for adjudication! http://www.askamanager.org/category/resumes
🙂 Thank you! I’ve read some of her posts on other topics, but I will for sure have a look at all of her info on CVs and cover letters! It’s so difficult, isn’t it? One man’s trash is another man’s treasure, as that sage Macklemore once said. I wonder if how Ask A Manager feels about ‘personal statements’ – that’s the real sticking point for me. Some people love a little intro to you, some people say they suck.
I did a CV-writing course (I know… but my old company paid for it!) before Christmas and got ‘standout student’, maybe I should put that on there too… 😉
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