How Was Your Day?

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I downloaded a dating app for the first time in my life on a whim this past weekend. The positive thing is that no one has been gross so far (knock on wood). But single men in LA really need conversation coaches. Please stop telling me about your intricate Game of Thrones theories and just ask me a question as if you want to get to know me. Literally any question. If someone I matched with asked me one thing about myself, he would raise the average number of questions per guy. I really just want to provide some honest feedback and help these guys find love… with other women. Anyhow I’m going to get my car washed then do some work. What are you up? What’s for lunch? Have you ever had success on a dating app?

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5 Responses to How Was Your Day?

  1. Sergeant Tibbs says:

    Ooh I recently downloaded a dating app but couldn’t figure out what to write in my profile. “I watch tv.” “I’d prefer if we hung out while reading near each other.”? So anyway, I was looking online for guidance on putting together a profile and there are lots of do’s and don’t’s for men but not really for women (one of the common don’t’s was don’t pose next to dead fish, which is not a problem I have). Any advice on the basics of setting up your profile? And pictures! Are there types of pictures you’re supposed to use? I feel very behind the times! I’d normally ask my friends but I only have a few who online date and they live far from me!

    • Tracey says:

      What app are you trying? I started with Hinge and might try Bumble.

      Some complaints I’ve seen about women’s profiles is that they use old photos or too many filters – guys seem to have bad experiences showing up to meet someone who looks totally different in person than in their photos. So for my profile I’m using my second-tier photos (a couple I wouldn’t even put on Facebook) and I say exactly when they were taken. I’ve seen advice not to use all travel photos or all selfies. If you use one or two full body shots you get more engagement. Basically, give them peace of mind that you aren’t tricking them.

      On Hinge you have a choice of 30 or so prompts and you answer three, which are basically ice breakers. Like “true or false…” or “the most spontaneous thing I ever did was…” So it’s not too much pressure to bare your soul. What I’ve read advice-wise is to not be negative (“I don’t want guys who do this”), keep it positive and light.

      I recommend browsing http://reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty (OLD there is the abbreviation for online dating) or https://www.reddit.com/r/OnlineDating/ but of course take all this with a grain of salt because I have no idea what I’m doing!

    • welcometocostcoiloveyou says:

      Don’t pose next to dead fish? Is posing with dead fish the new “women laughing with salads”?

      I was nervous to post pictures or personal information when I tried a dating site. I remember thinking that it would be easier if the site (I used OK Cupid) was set up like Facebook. Like, everyone can see your profile picture and a couple facts, but only the people you chat with can see the rest of you profile and pictures.

      • Sergeant Tibbs says:

        Ah thank you both! I also feel weird about posting so many pictures but I don’t want people to think I’m catfishing them. I think posing with dead fish is definitely the women laughing with salads of the outdoorsy men’s world.

        Of course reddit would have tips on this, I’ll check it out!

  2. Sergeant Tibbs says:

    Oh and I tried out bumble first but maybe I should switch to Hinge. Those questions sound doable! I was nervous because I haven’t used my Facebook to friend people since moving to a new state and I thought Hinge works off of your Facebook friend network. I wouldn’t have any options, I imagine!

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