Open Chat

Sorry everyone, I got nothing this week. Let’s open chat! I’m getting my butt kicked at work in the worst possible way. But I am really enjoying Dead to Me on Netflix. Is anyone watching? You gotta watch, it’s so good. Don’t even look up anything about it, just turn on the first episode.

Okay actually watch this one-minute video if you must then fire up Netflix.

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14 Responses to Open Chat

  1. hotspur says:

    I mean “inspirational” probably oversells it, why not just go with “funny”? I like C-Applegate so I guess I’d try this. How long is it? What sold me on Chernobyl was that it is only 5 episodes. I finished it Sunday. You guys, it’s good! Both inspiring AND funny, I still feel great and safe. No but seriously, it’s good.

    After watching it, I wanted to know which parts were made up for dramatic purposes. Some of the made-up parts were obvious, like a long-time Party man saying incredulously “Is this really how the system works??” Dude. Also a couple speeches seem aimed squarely at 2019, not taken from transcripts of 1986. Fine! But I wondered, for ex., which characters were composites? Normal turning-history-into-drama stuff like that. HOWEVER, I am finding that a lot of the criticisms of the show are INSANE. They’ll be headlined “WHAT THE SHOW GOT DANGEROUSLY WRONG,” and then… nothing, really. Even in sane-style places like the New Yorker, I shit you not, in a mostly sane article, their scribbler also gripes: “The house pets left in the ‘exclusion zone’ after people are evacuated are shown through the eyes of men who are sent there to execute them. We never see these pets through the eyes of their owners.” Give me a break, New Yorker! Watch Chernobyl, it is good and 100% accurate.

    • Tracey says:

      I think it’s 10 30-minute episodes, so it flies by!

      I struggled with Chernobyl. The accents are so weird that it pulls me out of the show. Also it was a real bummer. I want to appreciate it the way other people do! Why can’t I appreciate it?

      • hotspur says:

        Wait, aren’t the accents just English? With a couple of Scottish?

        • Tracey says:

          Oh is Chernobyl in the UK??????

        • hotspur says:

          You’re kidding. Very nice. No, it’s the actors are English, not the disaster. I think Stellan Skarsgard has some other accent, I don’t know where he’s from, he sounds Soviet in everything.

        • gnidrah says:

          I’ve read people being very happy that there weren’t any accents?! But I haven’t seen the show yet. I think English accents are the default for ‘mean’, aren’t they? So maybe that’s why they used us?!

  2. hotspur says:

    Oh. Also. I just started The Romanoffs. Apparently I’m going through a Russia phase.

  3. Sergeant Tibbs says:

    Alright guys, this has been a pretty tough few weeks. My close friend and roommate died suddenly in an accident. There isn’t much to say except all of the trite things we say when these things happen. Life is precious. Cherish every moment. It’s all true. I guess the thing that brings me comfort right now is to know she was full of hope and potential and happiness.

    Usually the things that bring me comfort in times of need are reading, watching tv, and cooking but I’m finding it really hard to stay focused and I keep burning my oatmeal. Anything you can think of that’s just mildly more engaging than tv and less than cooking? Is it painting or riding a bike?

    • hotspur says:

      Oh my god. I’m so sorry. What a terrible time.

      I think physical stuff is good. Biking, running, swimming, whatever you can manage. Your mind will go to more creative places, maybe, if you can give it that space. Let me / us know if there’s anything we can do for you.

    • Tracey says:

      Oh I’m so sorry to hear this. If at some point you want to share any stories about her or favorite memories, I would love to hear them. If you want to vent or shout or anything, this is a safe place to do that.

      A good friend of mine committed suicide 11 years ago and I was in a fog for a long time. I felt like I was moving through the world under water, everything was heavy and dulled.

      I like to tackle projects as distractions. Painting a dresser, moving furniture, cleaning out the closet, just mindless stuff that also cleans up and changes the physical space you occupy. Maybe a jigsaw puzzle, or a cross stitch, something that has a finish line to march towards.

      • Sergeant Tibbs says:

        Oh thank you both, those suggestions really do help. Sometimes it’s hard to think all the options through. Thanks for the kind offers <3.

        And tracey, I'm so sorry you lost your friend. It really doesn't seem to get easier each time, it just becomes a part of life. I appreciate you all so much.

    • gnidrah says:

      Just to add my condolences. That’s so very sad. I’m sorry. It sounds as though she was a very good friend and that’s a wonderful thing to have had – and a terrible thing to lose.

      I went through a very bad period a few years ago, for a different reason, but if I may share the things that helped me at that time… There’s no right way, of course, but there might well be a wrong way! I threw myself into working, which was absolutely what I had to do at the time, but looking back, I probably ought to have taken a bit more time for myself. I ran myself into the ground because I wanted to be so exhausted that I could just pass out and sleep. That’s probably not sensible. And I probably drank too much for a brief period. If you need to do those things, do them, but keep an eye on them. Stop them before you can’t, if you see what I mean.

      What actually got me through, in hindsight, was exercise. Walking. Crying if I needed to (and I needed to. A lot) Spending time with friends and family, not talking, just sitting and existing. I couldn’t concentrate enough to read or to watch TV so I listened to a lot of music. I cooked. I did puzzles?! And I went back to therapy, properly. Talking is the easiest thing and the hardest thing – but it’s one of the reasons I’m still here today. xxxx

      • Sergeant Tibbs says:

        Thank you. One of the things I’m finding is very weird is the requirement to go to work as if nothing’s happened. I realize we can’t completely stop everything every time something happens but I think my brain needs a break from normal life. I feel like I need to honor the fact that something huge and horrible happened and doing normal things like work feels dismissive of that. And I have to say, my coworkers have been so supportive in not expecting me to be at full productively. This is more a frustration with…society I guess! Anyway, thank you all for your support and suggestions. It’s so helpful to hear what did and didn’t work for you.

        • gnidrah says:

          No, I think you’re completely right. And I have been saying this to a friend very recently, after she had some bad stuff happen, that you need to “acknowledge” that it has happened. Give it space. It’s a massive trauma, really it is, and to feel that way is completely normal. It’s really a blessing to have colleagues who are supportive, I was very lucky when my thing happened that my boss just completely got it. They gave me two weeks off work if I wanted it, and he understood that I mightn’t always be mentally present, even if I was there physically.

          Something else my cousins and I did a few years ago when my grandpa died was to have drinks for him. So we could have time together to share some stories about him and say our own kind of goodbye. If it’s something you feel like doing, when a little time has passed, it definitely was good for us.

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